Phew!! After having one of the toughest week in UKM, the mid-sem exam is finally over! I consider it as the toughest week because I had 4 papers in 1 week. The torture comes when the paper are just 2 days interval, which also means there is no rest for me at all. I had to consistently study 4 different subjects, as soon as one subject finishes, and I had to focus on the next one.
Well, it's finished, enough said. Just when I think I can have some time to relax a bit, here comes the assignments, projects, activities, sukem and bla bla bla...It seems like it's never ending. And in approximately one month, exams again--the Finals, is just that this is much more important. HAIZZZ...
Tuesday, 26 November 2013
End Of Mid-Sem Exams!
Monday, 25 November 2013
Honesty In Marriage
Admit it guys, Honesty is one of the hardest thing to practice on this planet. Literally there is nobody that didn't even lie in their entire life. Especially in marriage, honesty is a value that married must imply in their daily life. It is so important that if honesty is missing in a married couple, it could cause a divorce. Apparently, most of the marriages have been broken was due to the lack of honesty.
Sometimes what you and your spouse need in order to have a
passionate marriage is a good, healthy dose of truth. Nothing says distance and
dis-ease in a marriage like hidden truth, betrayal, and a lack of trust.
When it comes to marriage, secrets can cause real problems.
Whether a spouse knows or not, hidden truth that the spouse should know about
can spread through a marriage like a cancer. There are lies or secrets that a
spouse suspects may be existent and there are lies that are totally unknown,
but should be settled up.
If you're the one doing the hiding and you just don't know
how to come clean, first make sure you are right with God. Confess to Him what
you have done and turn your life of sin over to Him in turn for receiving new
life in Christ.
If you are at a place where you are torn inside and your
heart aches that you have been hiding important facts or activities from your
spouse, I suspect that you have already sought forgiveness from God, but that's
where you start. By seeking God and being honest before Him, and receiving His
grace, you can ask for Him to prepare your spouse's heart and mind for what you
are going to tell him or her.
Marriage
So the title today is "Marriage", Hmmm...I can"t really comment on this as I'm still a young student and of course I have no experience in this before. But, I do know some basic ways to maintain the married relationship between the couples. These are a few points which I think it's crucial for couples to do in order to maintain a happy married life.
One of our strengths has always been working well together. When the twins were born we had twice as many dirty diapers, dishes, bottles and chaos in addiction to our 2 year old and 4 year old. If we didn’t learn to help each other and work together we would have never moved forward. To this day we can still count on each. No burden is too heavy when shared.
2. Remind yourselves often what you love about each other.
When
I’m folding my husband’s clothes I reflect on his work ethic, patience,
strength and generosity. I smile as I remember his jokes and his quirky humor.
I’m amazed at the relationships he has grown and nurtured with our adult daughters.
When you spend time reflecting on the good qualities of your spouse, your love,
affection, adoration for each other will grow.
3. Be interested in and share each other’s world.
Be in touch
with each others lives. Stay connected when you are apart. We have always
checked in with each other then we’ve been apart. When the girls were in
elementary school I went to college. When the girls were in high school, I went
to grad school. Through out it all we stayed in touch with each other. Today
it’s easier than ever with email, texting and cell phones. To this day Roger
calls me at noon just to check-in.
4. Maintain a fundamental belief that your spouse is worthy of
honor and respect.
Never put each other down. Be kind to each other. Watch your
tone of voice when you are frustrated with each other. Learn to sing each
other’s praises. Build trust by always telling the truth. Let go of
expectations. Practice accepting each other in the present moment. We didn’t
know how to do this for the first 10 years. When I thought things couldn’t get
any worse we decided to find a therapist and seek help. This was in the early
80′s; we paid $50 out of pocket, paid a babysitter and drove 45 minutes weekly
for six months. What we learned changed our relationship forever.
5. Be there when you are needed during the insignificant
moments of life
For example, picking up groceries, helping with the dishes,
filling a car with gas, paying bills and communicating in the car. These sacred
moments and gestures are the heart and soul of your relationship. Make these
events count. The little things you do to connect emotionally add up and get
you through difficult days, sickness and other life transitions.
Saw this a few days ago, although it's a prank, this is just an example of what happens when the couples do not believe in each other.
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