So the title today is "Marriage", Hmmm...I can"t really comment on this as I'm still a young student and of course I have no experience in this before. But, I do know some basic ways to maintain the married relationship between the couples. These are a few points which I think it's crucial for couples to do in order to maintain a happy married life.
One of our strengths has always been working well together. When the twins were born we had twice as many dirty diapers, dishes, bottles and chaos in addiction to our 2 year old and 4 year old. If we didn’t learn to help each other and work together we would have never moved forward. To this day we can still count on each. No burden is too heavy when shared.
2. Remind yourselves often what you love about each other.
When
I’m folding my husband’s clothes I reflect on his work ethic, patience,
strength and generosity. I smile as I remember his jokes and his quirky humor.
I’m amazed at the relationships he has grown and nurtured with our adult daughters.
When you spend time reflecting on the good qualities of your spouse, your love,
affection, adoration for each other will grow.
3. Be interested in and share each other’s world.
Be in touch
with each others lives. Stay connected when you are apart. We have always
checked in with each other then we’ve been apart. When the girls were in
elementary school I went to college. When the girls were in high school, I went
to grad school. Through out it all we stayed in touch with each other. Today
it’s easier than ever with email, texting and cell phones. To this day Roger
calls me at noon just to check-in.
4. Maintain a fundamental belief that your spouse is worthy of
honor and respect.
Never put each other down. Be kind to each other. Watch your
tone of voice when you are frustrated with each other. Learn to sing each
other’s praises. Build trust by always telling the truth. Let go of
expectations. Practice accepting each other in the present moment. We didn’t
know how to do this for the first 10 years. When I thought things couldn’t get
any worse we decided to find a therapist and seek help. This was in the early
80′s; we paid $50 out of pocket, paid a babysitter and drove 45 minutes weekly
for six months. What we learned changed our relationship forever.
5. Be there when you are needed during the insignificant
moments of life
For example, picking up groceries, helping with the dishes,
filling a car with gas, paying bills and communicating in the car. These sacred
moments and gestures are the heart and soul of your relationship. Make these
events count. The little things you do to connect emotionally add up and get
you through difficult days, sickness and other life transitions.
Saw this a few days ago, although it's a prank, this is just an example of what happens when the couples do not believe in each other.
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