Relationship Before Marriage

Nowadays, we often hear in the news that celebrities who got married not long ago are divorcing. That doesn't only happen in the entertainment world but happens in each and every part of the world. And this causes the divorcing rate to increase rapidly every year. Everything happen for a reason, in this case, that would be the relationship before marriage. To be honest, I'm not quite sure about what are the relationships before marriage, maybe because I've never been to one, so I kinda googled it out. So these are the things that couples should DO AND DON'T:

DO: Make sure you can resolve conflicts, feeling closer to your partner. All couples argue, but happier couples end up feeling closer and more understood after an argument. Make sure you understand each other’s way of dealing with anger, and that you are comfortable with it.

Don’t: Expect that your partner is going to change and learn conflict resolution after marriage.  If your partner is a bad communicator and uncomfortable with conflict or anger prior to marriage, it is not going to change after marriage.

Do: Talk about sex and intimacy openly. Prior to marriage your partner and you should be able to have a discussion about sex and intimacy without feeling anger, shame or indifference.

Don’t: Expect that if your partner is addicted to porn or flirting, or lacks sexual boundaries prior to marriage, that it will change after marriage. Don’t expect a partner to all of a sudden become more sexual after marriage if they lack interest prior to marriage.

Do: Talk about money, saving, and a financial plan for your marriage. A joint checking and savings account is wise because it lends itself to working together for the same goal.  A monthly money discussion is a priority for married couples.

Don't: Go into marriage not knowing one another’s spending pattern. Your partner is not going to change after marriage. If they are irresponsible with making money, spending money and saving money prior marriage, it is going to be difficult and I would step back before saying “I Do.”